Tell Me I’m Sorry
Join writers/friends Maggie (a Millennial) and Marin (a Gen Z-er) as they muse on depictions of girlhood in film, literature, and other media. Tell Me I’m Sorry is a celebration of pop culture, the audacity of youth, and the ways we grow away from and into our bodies and dreams for ourselves and each other. New episodes every other Tuesday.
Episodes
Tuesday Oct 29, 2024
14. The Slumber Party Massacre
Tuesday Oct 29, 2024
Tuesday Oct 29, 2024
This week we’re talking about the definitive slasher of Maggie’s girlhood, Amy Holden Jones’s THE SLUMBER PARTY MASSACRE (1982)—a movie which offers just about everything you could want in a horror classic: inventive gore, insightful commentary on female sexuality and objectification, goofy phallic symbols, queer longing, and girls eating pizza over a corpse. Happy Halloween!
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Secondary texts referenced:
Slumber Party Massacre (2021) dir. Danishka Esterhazy
Tuesday Oct 08, 2024
13. Scream
Tuesday Oct 08, 2024
Tuesday Oct 08, 2024
We’re prepping for Halloween by subjecting ourselves to the most stomach-churning sight of the 90s: Skeet Ulrich’s greasy hair tendrils. Marin’s pick this week is SCREAM (1996), the first horror movie that actually scared her. And while Skeet’s hair IS an abomination, this film has plenty of other horrors for us to dissect: teenage misogynists, extreme fandom, and weaponized self-awareness. We also praise Drew Barrymore (naturally) and discuss how her one scene really is as affecting—in both its terror and its sadness—as everyone remembers.
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Secondary texts referenced:
“The fandom menace: People, get a life!” by Roger Ebert
Ghosts of You by Cathy Ulrich
Tuesday Sep 24, 2024
12. The Virgin Suicides
Tuesday Sep 24, 2024
Tuesday Sep 24, 2024
It’s the movie that launched Sofia Coppola’s directing career and awakened Young Maggie to the beauty of Kirsten Dunst’s armpits: the dreamy, detailed, and devastating THE VIRGIN SUICIDES (1999). We wrestle with the male narration, Marin details falling out of love with the novel upon which the film is based (and appreciating the film more as a result), and we talk about the knottiest of conundrums: how to protect adolescent girls from the world without totally depriving them of it.
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Secondary texts referenced:
Girl, Interrupted by Susanna Kaysen
“No” by Anne Boyer (from A Handbook of Disappointed Fate)
“Our Sisters Shall Inherit the Sky” by Alana Massey (from All the Lives I Want: Essays About My Best Friends Who Happen to Be Famous Strangers)
Tuesday Sep 10, 2024
11. Cruel Intentions
Tuesday Sep 10, 2024
Tuesday Sep 10, 2024
We’re investigating a supremely entertaining work of garbage this week and, honestly, thank goodness—we needed some laughter around here. CRUEL INTENTIONS (1999) has it all: one of the most despicable romantic heroes in teen film history, ~tension~ between step siblings, a perfect Sarah Michelle Gellar performance, and a Counting Crows needle drop that offends Maggie but reverts Marin into a sentimental tween. We rant, we cackle, we reflect, we put this movie in conversation with some of the most influential art ever made (because this is our show and we do what we want). Enjoy!
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Secondary texts referenced:
Wuthering Heights by Emily Brontë
Hannah Gadsby: Nanette (2018) dir. Madeleine Perry and John Olb
“Introduction to Les Liaisons Dangereuses” by Alfred Mac Adam (Barnes & Noble Classics edition)
“Pure Heroines” by Jia Tolentino (from Trick Mirror: Reflections on Self-Delusion)
Tuesday Aug 27, 2024
10. Miller's Girl
Tuesday Aug 27, 2024
Tuesday Aug 27, 2024
MILLER’S GIRL (2024) was panned by critics and didn’t recoup even a fourth of its budget at the box office, so, naturally, we had to talk about it and dare to ask, “Is it really that bad?” The movie is fundamentally about a student being groomed by her teacher, so there’s a lot at stake in terms of how it addresses victimhood, villainy, and power—and our feelings about the outcome are complicated.
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Secondary texts referenced:
Bunny by Mona Awad
My Dark Vanessa by Kate Elizabeth Russell
The Room (2003) dir. Tommy Wiseau
Jade Halley Bartlett interview with Forbes: “Miller’s Girl As a Villain Origin Story”
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
09. Shirkers
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
Tuesday Aug 13, 2024
We wade into the world of documentary filmmaking with Sandi Tan’s SHIRKERS (2018), which reflects on Tan’s teenage experience of making a movie with her friends and losing the footage after their teacher steals it. The movie’s “layers of aboutness,” as we writerly types love to say, are plentiful—and get into as much as we can wrap our heads and hearts around: magical realism, punk spirit, youthful determination, and how to live a life that is in service to your art.
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Secondary texts referenced:
“Lessons of the Line: Charles Simic and Me” by Dana Levin (from the Yale Review, spring 2024 issue)
“After the World-Breaking, World-Building” by Vanessa Angélica Villarreal (from Magical/Realism: Essays on Music, Memory, Fantasy, and Borders)
Tuesday Jul 30, 2024
08. Make Up
Tuesday Jul 30, 2024
Tuesday Jul 30, 2024
The day has arrived: Maggie vibes with a movie much more than Marin does. The movie in question? Claire Oakley’s MAKE UP (2019), a surreal and sparse story about a teen girl’s coming-to-desire on the Cornwall coast. Maggie offers a compelling analysis of characterization which invokes the spirits of Dashiell Hammett and RHW Dillard (our beloved former professor), Marin argues that the film is at least horror-adjacent, and we discuss the symbolism of the sea (original, we know), the implications of “straight-baiting,” and the staying power of memes about men who don’t furnish their apartments.
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Secondary texts referenced:
The Awakening by Kate Chopin
Syzygy, Beauty by T. Fleischmann
The Glass Key by Dashiell Hammett
Magical/Realism: Essays on Music, Memory, Fantasy, and Borders by Vanessa Angélica Villarreal
Claire Oakley interview with Little White Lies
Claire Oakley interview with AnOther Magazine
Tuesday Jul 16, 2024
07. Support the Girls
Tuesday Jul 16, 2024
Tuesday Jul 16, 2024
Did you ever work a soul-crushing service job that sometimes sent you to the bathroom crying? Then we have the episode for you! Andrew Bujalski’s SUPPORT THE GIRLS (2018) is a lovely and loving film which follows a restaurant manager and her all-female staff as they try to make it through the day. We talk about its authentic approach to solidarity, the dynamic ensemble of characters, our own hellish work experiences, and the significance of the film’s male writer-director.
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Secondary texts referenced:
Alice Doesn’t Live Here Anymore (1974) dir. Martin Scorsese
“Grip” by Joy Castro (from Island of Bones)
Tuesday Jul 09, 2024
06. The Starling Girl
Tuesday Jul 09, 2024
Tuesday Jul 09, 2024
We’re tackling religious upbringing this week with Laurel Parmet’s THE STARLING GIRL (2023), a phenomenal film about a teenage girl’s coming-of-age in her Christian fundamentalist community—and we’re having necessary conversations about modesty culture (and the violence it inflicts), predatory relationships, and the work of protecting each other whilst living within systems that thrive precisely by not protecting our livelihoods.
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Secondary texts referenced:
Holiday Country by Inci Atrek
The Dream of a Common Language by Adrienne Rich
Interview with Laurel Parmet
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
05. Plan B
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
Tuesday Jul 02, 2024
It’s finally time to talk about a teen comedy! Marin’s pick this week is Natalie Morales’s PLAN B (2021), which follows two South Dakotan teens as they try to obtain basic reproductive healthcare and endure lots of bullshit along the way. But the movie is also a funny and tender depiction of friendship and growing into yourself. We discuss its smart and empathetic use of humor, why its romantic subplots work, the logistics of its South Dakota geography, and the possibilities—and limitations—of art as an agent for political change. (Audio note: apologies for the muffled sound at parts—we recorded this episode while wearing masks in an attempt to avoid illness!)
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Secondary texts referenced:
Forever… by Judy Blume
Long Live the Tribes of Fatherless Girls: A Memoir by T Kira Madden